I recently had a friend go to her High School Reunion. She was obsessed about it every time I talked to her. She wanted to look fabulous and appear to have a fabulous life and a fabulous family and make sure everyone knows she is doing fabulous. All I can think about is that she really IS a fabulous person...so why care what everyone else that you knew 10 years ago thinks? Maybe High School was a bad experience for her or something and she feels she has something to prove? I dunno... are those people really worth all the fuss if you haven't bothered to stay in touch anyway? I think that no matter WHAT you were like in High School, people have got to assume you've changed a little, so why build yourself up when YOU KNOW you're already great?
It reminds me of my trip to NYC see my friend, Janelle (holla!) last summer when she got married. It was a mini reunion of several high school friends, and even though I can honestly say i HATE NYC (no offense to anyone who lives there, of course...it just wasn't for me) I got a chance to see many of the people that I would have wanted to see again (that i don't see otherwise). I was pregnant fat and my face was broken out and my friend and I had been on planes and trains and stinky cabs and REALLY stinky streets and we got stuck in the rain twice on the way to the wedding and our feet had blisters and were bleeding and we were so wet we had to RING OUT our clothes and hair on the way into the chapel...and it was A zillion degrees outside so on top of being soaked, it was all sticky and humid and muggy outside. But it DIDN'T matter, because NO ONE CARED, because they were my friends. We got to visit and catch up and laugh and i'm sure NOT ONE of them thought, "wow, she's really let herself go" (well...maybe I'm wrong...I did look pretty terrible, but seriously, who cares?) Isn't the point of keeping in touch with long-time friends that you can pick up where you left off and no one feels the need to judge each other? After talking with my friend, I'm not really sure if i'll even go to my reunion when it comes up.It really took over her life for awhile. Is it just going to be a bunch of Romy and Michelle's trying to prove how wonderful their life is now? Maybe life IS wonderful for them, and that is really great, but if it's not, that's ok too, it doesn't mean I still don't want to see them and swap pictures.
What are everyone's thoughts on this? Are High School Reunions worth it? Or is it just a chance to see who dropped out of college, who's fat, who's knocked up, who's successful, who's bald, who moved to central america and who's gay? Did any of you go to your reunions?
Goodbye Butterflies
12 years ago
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Here's the good (and HORRIBLE) thing about Gilroy: you can go there for a day and see 75% of people we went to school with. Which means every time I trek over the hill to do my laundry, it's a reunion and I never need to go to an official one.
Amen, sistah! WHO CARES?? I think HS reunions are all about competition. The friends from high school that I really want to keep in touch with, I do! Everyone else doesn't really matter and I don't worry about what they think about me.
I skipped my 10 year reunion. I have no idea if I'll want to go to my 20th -- probably not. Ask me in 3 years (wow, I'm old!). I would WAY rather spend the time and money on a weekend get-together with a few best gal pals and catch up with the friends that have helped me become the person that I am.
I actually just began an effort in the last week to get together with my 3 best friends/roommates from college next Spring -- it would be our first gathering together in 13 years. We'll see if we can pull it off!
You know, Mere's right. When I lived at home for a year, it was like having a high school reunion every other day at work (Barnes and Noble). After a year of that, the idea of attending a formal reunion lost it's glamour. Honestly, I don't care to spend a whole night reliving high school. It wasn't that great - esp not compared to my life now!
i am just really interested if that guy, (david ernst in my case), you know the one that is so geeky, but incredibly intelligent is a millionaire.
that's all i want to know.
Don't go. You have the "we live so far away" excuse. Use it.
Although, I'd say that the only reason to go is not to show people how awesome your life is, but to see what happened to the people you barely knew. You know...
once the thrill of being the #1 wrestler in state wore off, did that guy realize he was gay and missed the snuggling?
Is that one chick that was totally into step aerobics now a meth addict like you thought might happen?
Did that guy ever grow into his nose? (He did, and now has an equally hilarious huge head.)
Is that arrogant jerk that always had the weakest insults ever still working the drive-thru window at McDonalds?
Did that one kid ever stop being insane and going into fits of uncontrolled rage? Is he a successful physicist?
Of course, with myspace and the like, you don't need to pay 50 bucks for a ticket to find out that the creepy guy you thought would become a serial killer is really into guns, but apparently just uses them to kill animals in the forest. Plus you are extra safe because he wears camo ALL THE TIME. So, whereas in the forest it's like, "Where's the idiot?" In the city, you can be like, "Oh, there's the idiot." (This past joke borught to you by Dimitri Martin)
Thank you Scott for just describing my highschool exactly.
I say skip it....I don't think I'll be going to mine. I'd rahter not pay the money to watch everyone get drunk and act the exact same way they did 10 years ago....although it may be fun....and I think it would make us SO happy about how our lives turned out!
And I have to agree with Hayley.....I just know that the super geek turned out super hot and rich....I think it always works that way.
meredith you like HAVE to go because you were homecoming queen.
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